Having children

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My son is 3 now and I can't imagine what my life would be like without him around. Still, if having kids isn't for you then so be it. I read in the news every day about people who had no damn business having kids.

I do agree with Gutterflower about what BS it is for people to use their kids as an excuse to get out of work. People who do that kind of thing would just find another excuse to ditch if they didn't have kids, and thus still miss the same amount of work. Kids give them an easier way to get away with it. I have an employee with 3 kids, so she has 3 additional reasons not to come to work, in addition to the usual " I don't feel good", or "My car won't start". Other employees who want to ditch an equal amount of time have to come up with more creative excuses.

I also agree with Dean over his noise issue, assuming his amp isn't turned up to 11 after midnight. It sounds like people in his neighborhood are bored and looking for something to complain about. I've played loud many days/and or nights and never had a complaint...but I'm working on it.

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Man, that's some serious shit, there!!! Yep. Well, let's see . . . I don't have any kids ( none that have caught up with me, anyway!{LOL}) , and I'm not going to be making any. I'm the last male of my clan, but I've lost too many relatives to cancer and I'm not going to let it pass. >> With good fortune and better health, it won't be making an appearance in my house. << I can appreciate children from afar, and I can enjoy the guilt-free satisfaction which comes from being able to take care of and keep all of my stuff in good condition. There are way too many freakin' people on this rock and not enough of them making a change, by a long shot, to preserve the environment. I could be wrong, but that's just about the way it works out.

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I could do a novel here on having kids in the 21st century, but I am not.....u know why, coz everyones, financial situation is different, their sexuality is different, and their plain old situation with how the baby/baby was conceived is different. Maybe it was a one night stand, maybe it was with a partner that never wanted kids or even they both tried but couldnt do it, so it was a test tube baby. Either way, everyone has their own idea what makes a family, and how to go about it, or how it came about, weather it was their choice or not. Anyway, I will tell u my story instead, coz everyone has a story, to why and how it all came about.

I was 27, young, free, playing in one of the biggest unsighned bands in Oz, I meet a really nice chick, cut to the chase....she gets preg, throws me the deal..U either want to be a rockstar, or a dad. I was just about to leave for london with my band, that was on the border of greatness, to do a tour of europe, and I get told that after giving my life for over 10 years to music to give it all up, funny thing is, I was so over whelmed with her being preg, i stayed here, and they took another guitarist, and it all fell apart, but that is another story in itself.

What I am saying is.......ther is nothing wrong with bringing a life in to this world, it is the most beautiful thing to do, the day when my son was born, when he was coming out entering this world, I cried, and cried, it is the most amzing thing u can go through, but there is everything after that. I had my kid with the wrong person, the right person would have let me go/come with me to europe to fullfill my dreams, not get knocked up to stop me going coz she was/is so fkn insecure. She fucked my music carrer doing that, something I worked hard for, for way over 10 years b4 I met her, and the fkn funny thing is, my boy is 11 now, never see's his mum, coz she is a fkn idiot that doesnt care, and he lives with me.

So heres the fkn equation...I give up everything for a chick that gets preg, coz I have good family values, and same time she is a selfish bitch for making me give it all up, when she had the choice to come too. We split, she wont let me have kid, I give her fkn thousands and thousands over the years, then when I cut the well, and say fuk u bitch, she gives me custody, and makes me look like a cunt to everyone etc etc etc etc, and now after all that, she doesnt even come and see her 11 yr old boy...Been 2 fkn years now.

So end of the day.......
I gave up a promising million dollar carreer to a groupie slut, who got preg to me, gave me an ultimatum, got too hard for her after 2 years, so she leaves me, fkn takes my house etc etc etc and continued to take my money till I got custody of him coz he hated it with her, and now she cant even bother seeing her kid. As it is, I over payed her 53,000 dollars and she isnt required to pay it back, yet if she still had him, and I was behind, I would have to pay that and sell my house to do so........

This is only m y story, but I bet alot of blokes get stung by money grubbing sluts........I was bitter, but I have my kid now, she destroyed my life for a long time, not only that, my boy wishes he had a family, u know the family I grew up with and most ppl did when they were young, the family with a real mum and dad..the original mum and dad, is why I gave it all up to start with, but she had other ideas.

I came from a family that are still together, my parents have been together for 44 years now, and so are all my bros and sisters and uncles etc....seems like this day and age, kids arent considered, which are the ones that truly suffer. My son and I have moved on, but the poor kid, will always wonder where his mum is, and why didnt he have a normal family..like nanna and pop......and that fkn hurts me more than me wondering what would have life been like with a considerate partner, that let me take my career as far as I could, would be good to d oit with someone and my family together.

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